it has yet to hit me, ive so much to digest. but yes, i am finally engaged and i will begin planning the rest of my life with this man that i love so much. in these last months, i have been learning a very important lesson, one that will probably prove to be crucial for a successful and happy life together. a couple months back, we were dealing with some issues related to selflessness, or rather, being selfish. it was mostly on my end, and i didnt realize that some of my habits were selfish ones. but even amid my self-involvement, pramin continued to be selfless, giving me the best of him. he gave me a copy of a passage he found, and in it was a line that i believe is the key to a successful marriage/relationship. it goes something like this:
place the other person's needs before your own; think of him/her before thinking of yourself.
i dont remember the exact words, but it has been an echo in my mind. at first it was very difficult, especially when i was upset or wanting things to go my way, but he quietly did his part, without reminding me of it. and hes been my example of humility, selflessness, wisdom, and a man who follows the word of God.
in these last couple of days, ive been reflecting on this act of being selfless, and what it means to place the other person above my own desires, needs, intentions...
the sweetest example of this was last week when we spent the evening at his home watching a movie. i heated up a cinnamon roll for us to share and i commented on how much i loved the inner part of the roll because it was soft and full of flavor. then i asked him what part he liked most, and he replied 'the outside.' i kept feeding him the outside edges of the dessert and then asked why he didnt like the center part. we were almost finished with the cinnamon roll at this point.
he told me it wasnt that he didnt like the inner part, and actually liked it a lot. but he wanted me to have the best part.
at that time, i didnt think much of it. but in retrospect, i realize he was placing me first, above himself. its such a small example of how this man treats me. it brought tears to my eyes when i realized what he had done, and what he continues to do everyday. this is the man i want to marry. he is the example i want to follow. this is the person i know loves me above loving himself. and i want to do the same for him.
