(some) clarity found

* face it...i can't be perfect, i never will be...get over it
* worrying alone doesn't help anything
* celebrate the small victories
* giving up is not an option
* any relationship is work, and it takes commitment
* i cannot be someone else, nor should i make it a goal to be
* stop comparing myself to others
* self-defeat is an ugly demon, and it thrives on pity
* change does not happen overnight (duh)
* failure is not a sign of defeat, but an informant on how to improve
* love not with words, but with actions (hmm, sounds familiar..)
* without trying, i'll never know if i would have succeeded
* perfectionism is dangerous
* do something about it or don't complain
* how badly do i want it??


this didn't all come at once. they're lessons i've been learning for some time now. good reminders to have around...